The Holistic Counseling Center of Long Island offers Couples Counseling in Miller Place, New York – Call us (631) 248-1727.
There can be many different reasons why you’re considering couples counseling.
Whether one of you is struggling with an issue that’s affecting the other partner, or the two of you are trying to overcome a relationship hurdle together, getting a professional, neutral opinion can help.
Couples counseling can help with all types of intimate relationships – heterosexual or homosexual, married or not married.
IMAGO RELATIONSHIP THERAPY TO HELP COUPLES WITH:
- Communication Issues
- Ongoing Conflict / Having The Same Argument Over & Over
- Loss of Intimacy
- Parenthood
- Substance Abuse / Addictions
- Financial Problems
- Anger Issues
- Always Ignoring The Problems
- Infidelity
- Trust Issues
- In-Law / Family Issues
Shattered dreams, whatever form they take are painful, but there’s hope. In fact, the pain & conflict of committed relationships arise not out of a lack of love for our partner, but from a misunderstanding of what love relationships are about.
Your conflict can be the very fuel for the fulfillment you seek!
Couples Counseling Long Island
When it comes to seeking relationship counseling for communication issues, many couples are hesitant at first.
Some people don’t like admitting there’s a problem or that they’re somehow “failing” as a couple. But the truth is, communication problems lie at the heart of many couples’ issues.
Professional counselors are experts at helping you move ahead when you feel stuck. Therapy can help you and your partner develop better problem solving and communication skills. By going to counseling, you gain a deeper understanding of who your partner is and what motivates him/her.
Counseling can help you and your partner resolve issues in a safe and neutral environment. This can bring you closer together while developing effective strategies to conquer those issues in the long-term.
Our counselors give the Long Island community resources to reach their fullest potential.
Our Imago relationship therapists are here to guide couples (and also individuals) into a better way of communicating.
The theory behind imago is that because emotional and psychological experiences with our parents or caretakers were so impactful, we unconsciously seek out people in our adult life who are similar to the same interactions that you experienced as a child. We associate both the negative and the positive interactions we had with our caretakers as things we need in adult relationships. Then, we fulfill the qualities that we either got or didn’t receive during our childhood.
Feel free to contact us with any questions you may have about therapy or making an appointment at the Holistic Counseling Center of Long Island.
Imago Relationship Therapy in Suffolk County, NY
Imago Relationship Therapy was co-developed by married couple Dr. Harville Hendrix & Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt in 1980 and was popularized in Dr. Hendrix’s New York Times best seller Getting The Love You Want.
The technique uses Imago Dialogue to help couples understand, validate and empathize with one another’s unique reality, rather than resorting to anger and reactivity.
Learning and teaching the Imago dialogue allows couples, families and also individuals to move from blame and reactivity, to understanding and empathy, so that they can create a deeper and loving connection with each other.
Through Imago Relationship Therapy, couples learn to understand each other’s feelings and childhood wounds more empathically, allowing each person to heal themselves and their relationship so that they can live a more conscious, happy life.
Learn more about Harville & Helen, relationship experts & creators of Imago relationship therapy & theory < more >
Please note that we do not accept insurance.
However, we can provide you with statements for OON benefits.
Office Hours (Miller Place):
- Monday 12-7pm
- Tuesday 12-9pm
- Wednesday 12-8pm
- Thursday 12-9pm
- Friday 12-7pm
Some of the basic tenets of Imago relationship therapy include:
- Re-imagining your partner’s actions in light of their childhood experiences.
- Re-creating romance with actions that show appreciation and love.
- Re-structuring feelings of frustration by using a more empathetic approach.
- Re-envisioning the relationship in a positive light.
If you’re looking to improve your relationship through couples counseling, it’s essential to be open-minded and honest. Identifying feelings about your relationship and what you want to improve will allow your therapist to help you to the best of their ability.
What to say in couples counseling:
- State your feelings openly and honestly.
- Tell your therapist what you want out of therapy. What you want, or how to achieve it, may not be clear to you / your partner.
- Discuss how the challenges in the relationship have affected you. Communication with your partner & therapist will help you move forward.
What not to say in couples counseling:
- Don’t hide what’s really going on inside you.
- Don’t ask your therapist to keep secrets from your partner.
- Don’t use words such as “you always” or “you never.“ Superlatives are rarely accurate, and you run the risk of gaslighting your partner (manipulating their emotions, memories, or opinions).
Couples Counseling Long Island
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Addiction Counseling in NY
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