Domestic violence, as defined by the US Department of Justice, is a pattern of abusive behavior to gain / maintain control over another person.
It can be physical, verbal, psychological, sexual, or financial in nature. However it manifests within your relationship, it is all tied to emotional abuse for the purpose of control. Abusers assert their authority in diverse ways due to psychological reasons of their own.
Everyone deserves to feel safe in their home and if you find yourself in an abusive relationship, it can be a complex unraveling to remove yourself from the situation.
If you are reading this, there is a good chance you are already questioning the toxic nature of your living situation, or you, in fact, already know it is abusive and are searching for a way out.
If you are unsure if your partner’s behavior constitutes abuse and just need clarity, that’s okay too. Counselors are here to help you sort it out.
You can heal and find a safer place to live and often we need help doing that. You must help yourself by taking one small, first step and that is simply to contact a licensed social worker. Take care of yourself. Speak with a professional, and together, you can determine your options.
You cannot fix them, and you don’t have to be their victim.
Oftentimes, it takes a while for a person to accept they are being victimized and recognize the abuse for what it is. It’s not always a big dramatic event but rather a series of events / patterns. It may be a slow slide into powerlessness.
It can be confusing and difficult to acknowledge the harm your partner is causing you.
A professional who is trained in relationships can help you gain perspective.
Mental health counselors are trained to help guide you out of unhealthy or dangerous environments. Use their expertise. Reach out for information.
No matter how strong or loving you are, you cannot endure through abuse. It will eventually diminish your self-esteem and perspective. Being controlled in an abusive manner is harmful whether it is through blatant behavior or more passive aggressive tactics.
Please understand you must help yourself, but you don’t have to do it all alone. Decide that you deserve better. Contact a counselor & together you can pave a path to a healthier, happier life.
If your safety is in danger, call 911 immediately. The National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1-800-799-7233. They provide resources & information whether you know or aren’t sure if you’re in an abusive relationship.
